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Islamabadi1
September 15, 2009 7:47am

You state marriage to the Quraan is Common in Pakistan. Do you have any figures to back it up? Like how many percentage of total marriages that take place are to the Quraan? There are about 70 million married people according to a recent estimate. How many are to the Quraan? 30 million? 20 million? 1 million? or is it 0.00001% of the total which you call "Common" ?

Ilm_786
September 15, 2009 7:53am

Asalaam-alekum, I think this is really sad what's happening in our so called Muslim countries. The problem is many ppl are illiterate of Islamic knowledge..the so called worldly educated and uneducated ones as well. This is so wrong to deprive a woman of her rights to marry. They seem to be more worried about their worldly possessions than serving Allah SWT correctly for this temporary life. We all need to educate ourselves on all the struggle our beloved Prophet SAW and the Sahabas did for Islam to bring us the greatest faith and truth to practice and live by, instead of continuing to live in ignorance of past and present Jahiliya customs or trying to imitate the non-Muslims in all their wrong doings rather than reviving the beautiful teachings of our own faith and Sunnah. But even on Naseeb I run into many ppl who don't have much knowledge of Islam or its teachings and seem to be only concerned abt this temporary life rather than preparing for the hereafter. It's such a cliche when many say, 'life is short or you only live once, so party/enjoy it...meaning all in worldly fun life regardless of the hereafter...' My say is, 'you only get one temporary life here, make the best of it to please Allah SWT and earn His reward to get the ultimate paradise.. After all, He did create us to worship Him..not live in ignorance and then expect to not be judged for it. As far as this issue is concerned, may Allah SWT help your friend bc what she's going through is truly unjust and her father/brother /family will be held accountable for this in front of Allah SWT. There is no Islamic law that permits this act. This is purely an act of Jahilliyah. As I said many ppl are illiterate of their Islamic knowledge whether they live in the villages or cities in Pakistan or any other country including many worldly educated ones here as well..bc they are only concerned abt this life, not much on the ultimate one. I think we all need to open the Quran and read with translation and actual Tafseer what our beautiful religion teaches to get our priorities straight ..as all the answers r there if we only take the time to educate ourselves and others. And also learn from the examples of Sahabas how they gave up everything for the cause of Allah to win the ultimate Paradise..not trying to imitate/support Western and our own corrupt leaders while watching the killing and suffering of our own fellow Muslims everywhere or too caught up in this dunya to care for anything else besides what car to drive, which big house to live in, etc. And not just worry abt Allah only in Ramadan..for Ramadan is the month to prepare us to live a life as a better Muslim all yr, not just once a month.

SAAKHI
September 23, 2009 3:50pm

Yeah, my best friend came from a village in Pakistan where although they have educated men, they have married the eldest female child to the Quran to keep money in the family if no male cousin is available. My friend had a cousin who was 4 yrs her junior, so the family married her off to him instead. Suffice it to say they wisened up. It really is akin to those Hindu traditions which marry off a girl to dog, a banana tree etc for good luck and fortune. Unfortunately tribal people take time to open their eyes to this as they are resistant to change.

sy00
September 20, 2009 3:09am

this is all based on old (and unfortunately current) hindu customs...where they married their daughters off to any and everything but a MAN...i have heard of marriages to gods, dogs, and other random things... THIS IS NOT islamic...so sorry that muslims are falling under the influences of kaffirs....its all outta ignorance and greed...

SABEEN77
September 18, 2009 5:44am

It's unislamic. non-islamic. Well,this is a foolish idea itself. I wish them light. This is a wrong practice to follow. This is not Siratul Mustaqeem.

RedRose65
September 19, 2009 7:33am

too often in religions things are manipultaed by humans for some worldly purpose...this is just one of them...in this instance people are concerned in preserving their inheritance at the expense of their daughter's welfare...and done for long enough any bulls**t becomes a fact with time in that circle... i mean...in christianity the English followed the Pope and Catholicism until King Henry VIII needed a way to be able to divorce and marry again (still a taboo in catholicism) and hey presto...the Church of England was created!!!

angel4eva86
September 17, 2009 11:20pm

This took me aback and is the first time I have ever heard of such a thing so I'm still kinda reeling from the shock!!! Pls enlighten me - how does it appeal to ur friend's logic? Marriage should be between two consenting adults..who attempted to re-define it??? Why??? Where did this stuff come from? I don't understand this practice at all!!!!!! :-/

My2cents
September 16, 2009 11:15pm

First off all Islam doesn't allow such things...PERIOD. I am not sure if this still happens in any parts of India or not, however women forced to marry a Quran used to be a common practice in the interior parts of the province Sindh in Pakistan. In the Province Sindh there were or still are the following unfortunate practices: 1. Women are forced to marry to Quran. There were two main makes no sense type of reasons behind it: a) No body was willing to marry a women, therefore she was forced to marry the Quaran for some cultural BS. b) Keeping the land within the family. 2. An Older Women is forced to marry a male child so she basically becomes his life time nanny and she raises him as his wife till he grows up and finally marries another women, however she remains his first wife. There are many other stupidities the south Asian cultures and other cultures have practiced in the past such as in the Sikh culture, when the husband dies, the wife is burned alive along with his dead body and so on, or if a women gets raped she is better off marrying the men who raped her rather live her life in disgrace... In Thailand its perfectly normal for family to put their daughters, son, and small kids in prostitution. Its socially acceptable in that society. I can give a thousand other examples. My point is don't blame Islam, most of these worldly problems are shameful cultural practices and have nothing to do with any religion. Religions are always used to justify the wrong doing because its an easy way out. As far as the solution...there is no short term solution. Education is the key, however how many of us really willing to get out of our cozy couches and go overseas to spread education? Just My2cents......

Islamabadi1
September 16, 2009 6:00am

I forgot to add another comment in my earlier comment. First it is wrongly stated that this practice is "Common". You cannot pick "exceptions" and isolated cases treat them as the "Norm" as the author has done. Secondly this issue has nothing to do with Islam, it has to do with ignorance so please leave the Beautiful religion of peace out of it. I suspect this is just a vile attempt to malign a particular country and most people reading it don't even realize it.

confusedCA-nian
September 16, 2009 6:21pm

I had no clue that such a thing existed as 'married to the Quran' even existed. Not surprised tho at the dumba$$ness, utter and pure stupidity of some people tho!! Hmmm you don't have to worry about cleaning up after the Quran, so maybe a silver a linning tho ;).

confusedCA-nian
September 16, 2009 6:22pm

I had no clue that such a thing existed as 'married to the Quran'. Not surprised tho at the dumba$$ness, utter and pure stupidity of some people tho!! Hmmm you don't have to worry about cleaning up after the Quran, so maybe a silver a linning tho ;).

Dawud72
October 19, 2009 11:01pm

The idea of marrying the Quran, first is not an Islamic one. It would be much closer to being a mix of Hindu and Christian practices, inforced through Islam. The explination is as follows. The foresaking of marriage monasticism which is dealt with in Hadith as being bad, because you deny the bounty that Allah has granted us for life in this world.The ayat you are foresaking in this case is 'And which of the favors of your Lord will you deny?' Which is actually repeated several times. The reasons for the bride marrying the Quran, are a from the Sihk hindu culture from which these Muslims came. In the prior practices the property of the family went to the bride and Mahir was paid to the Husband, in divorce money would also be paid to the husband. These beliefs remained in the families even after they gave up Hinduism for Islam. The practice is the enforced by invoking a Muslim belief, that the Child must obey the parent. In this case it may be an abuse and misuse of Islam, but still it is seen as an Islamic allowence of the belief and forces children to obey. Not because the original practice is compusary, but because mom and dad say so. The daughter has the right to disobey and is in this obligated to disobey, first because the practice is not one with basis in Islam but form two other religions. Second, related to number one, but following the parents, she is accually giving sins to the parents. Third in directly believing in a thing as allowed that is forbidden, you are denying the Word of Allah, this can be more harmful than most give thoughts to. It is one thing to do something wrong and know that you should correct the behaviour and dog something because you think it is good and correct. Next, for a marriage to be valid it must be consumated, so I pose this question, how did your friend go about consumating her marriage to her Quran? also since both parties need to give consent, how did this husband give his oath? What was the Mahr that the husband offered to the bride? Lastly how did the husband help draft and consent to the marriage contract to the bride?

Yaar
September 15, 2009 6:33pm

(1) You don't need an expert to tell you this. Everyone knows marriage is defined between people, and all the actions within a marriage require people to perform them. For instance, the Quran cannot say "Qabool he" and accept the person etc. It is absurd that someone would even have to point out that it is impossible to marry an inanimate object. The reason it is not prohibited is because the category doesn't make sense. For instance, it is not prohibited to "kill" stones because that category doesn't even make sense. (2) Presumably, the cruelty of not allowing a person to enjoy the companionship is prohibited under the general guideline of cruelty being prohibited. (3) Marriages to the Quran are not a common act. As you stated, it is a straightforward property grab, and most relatives are not that cruel. (4) I don't know how you "save" the woman. Really, the woman has to feel free to demand marriage. You'd have to protect someone who does that etc.

NachPuttar
September 15, 2009 4:21pm

dunya vich ullo day pathyaan di koi kammi nai....

lost
September 15, 2009 6:05pm

Marriage with Quran? Astaghfirullah! This practice is equivalent to forced Celibacy (as in Catholicism), which is Haram in Islam. Marriage with Quran has no basis in Islam. There is no evidence that it was practiced at the time of Prophet (PBUH) and his companions. Islam is very mindful of basic human needs, blockage of which leads to social corruption (e.g., child molester priests), and for this reason Islam does not allow forced Celibacy. This practice is not common in entire Pakistan, it is just common in interior Sindh, where literacy level (religious or otherwise)is very low, especially among females and hence they can be deceived in the name of religion. Bottom line is, it is just another way to exploit women devised by some clever and greedy men.

suprastarr
September 15, 2009 6:22am

Assalaamualaykum, WOW, I thought I had heard it all..at least until now. Unfortunately, barbarism knows no limits, and this is just the latest example. In Christianity, Fathers, Padres, Priests, etc. are married to the Church, and are often the suspects in child molestation cases. Similarly, Nuns are "married to God." However, in Islam, there is no such concept, let alone a concept of "being married to the Quran." I'm not a scholar by any means, however, I know Islam to be a practical way of life, marriage between a man and woman, being a component of that practicality. Additionally, both human kind and the jinn are ordered primarily to do two things by Allah S.W.T., worship him, and procreate (within the sanctity of marriage, of course); procreation is not possible by "marrying the Quran." Allah 'Azza wa Jal knows best. I would like to conclude with this- there are many things that happen around the world, not only in Pakistan, in the name of Islam, but are really motivated by cultural or economic reasons. People should use common sense, and not be blinded by family/cultural practices which are at odds with Islam and logic itself- for Islam is extremely logical and practical. Allah S.W.T. has not made this deen (way of life) difficult upon us, we have made it difficult upon ourselves. Allah, The Most High, knows best.

Superman35
December 11, 2009 3:38am

if you marry the Quran, does divorcing it later make you a non muslim? It would woudnt it?