Islam is not just about religious practices; it is about a way of life that is closest to nature. Marriage is the most important building block of any society and Islam tells us all the details that we need to know to make this institution as strong as rock! The importance of having a marriage is depicted in this Quranic verse, “It is He who created you from a single soul, and made its mate of like nature in order that you might dwell with her in love….”
Muslim marriages happen to be most successful as compared to the other creeds. The most important reason is that Islam does not merely focus on the importance of affection to make a marriage successful but it emphasizes the significance of other important social norms.
In an Islamic Marriage, the husband has a dominant role only due to the reason that he is the ‘provider’. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), “He is not one of us who possesses money but keeps his family away from his wealth.”
The man of the house has the supreme authority. But this law, made by Allah, does not inflict inferiority upon women. It rather helps the smooth running of the household without a possible conflict of power. Men are advised to treat women with care and affection. Prophet (PBUH) once said,” I advise you to be kind to your wives, for they are your helpers. You have taken them only as a trust from God, making their private parts lawful through a word.”
Most people in the Western world marry for love. At the same time, we hear that the divorce rate is highest in the Western world. It proves the point that marriages are not built upon love but other important gestures.
Marriage in Islam is built upon sacrifice, trust and compromise which are more valuable than love. It is important to give each other space and mold one’s personality so that two people can live under the same roof. Islam preaches that the husband and wife should care for each other’s likes and dislikes for stubbornness can effectively deteriorate a marriage. As Allah’s Apostle said, “A believing man must not hate a believing woman (his wife); if he dislikes one trait in her, he will find another trait in her with which to be pleased.”
In an ideal Islamic marriage, it is expected of a man to be an efficient provider for all the necessities of his family. A perfect wife would be the one who takes good care of her husband and proves to be a fine mother of her children.